I was having a discussion with a very close friend of mine and she stated that she is tired of defending her relationship with her husband to other wives she knows. She doesn’t have a problem catering to her husband’s needs—she makes sure he has three meals a day and she makes sure that he has everything he needs before she leaves the house and she doesn’t have a problem running his bathwater. Now, don’t misunderstand -my friend is not the docile type—she is very outspoken and her husband treats her with respect and dignity. As a matter of fact between the two of them, HE is the quiet one. But in addition to working full time and taking care of two small children, she spends a lot of time catering to his needs. Well, my sister, DON’T YOU DARE APOLOGIZE!
Why do you have to apologize to other women about treating your husband as the king of the household that not only God says he is, but the status that he deserves!!! If you have a husband that loves you and respects you and is trying to be the man God has ordained him to be—why would you not cater to his needs? When did it become a crime to love your husband and make sure that he is comfortable at all times? Is that not what we, as wives, want our husbands to do for us?
It is not a sign of weakness or a sign that we are controlled by our men if we take the time to do things for him. I know you hear other women say, “Hmph…I don’t do this or I don’t do that….he better do it himself! I work just like he does!!”
Genesis 2:18—18 The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
A helper—an aid, a collaborator, a partner that is suitable for him— given to Him by God just for him! You were given to your husband by God just for him. Out of all the other women in the world you were the suitable match for him!!! He’s counting on you to be an aid, a collaborator, a partner. What a special bond the two of you share—the love that many die without ever experiencing…and God has set your relationship in motion and expects you to be a good steward over it. Genesis 2:24—24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
You can not look at yourself as independent of your husband. Yes, the two of you may be different in personalities and may even clash in how you see things—but you are one flesh—and you must treat and respond to your husband with that in mind. You will not be any less of a woman by seeking to please your husband and pamper him with attention and affection. What’s the problem? You say you LUV him! I John 3:18 says:
18Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth. My Sister, don’t listen to those other women who are hatin’ on the wonderful relationship you have with your man and want you to be as miserable as they are. Run that man some bathwater, fix his favorite dinner, give him a hot oil massage after he’s had a hard day at work, make his favorite snack while he watches his favorite sports game—and then let him watch it in peace and quiet! So to my close friend and to all of you women who’ve already gotten the memo on how to treat a man—Don’t you dare apologize for loving your man and treating him as the king of his castle! And while you are at it, pray for me….because I want to be just like you when I grow up!!!
©2005 Candie A. Price